Been there Done that.
I talked to another parent today. A year ago I was in this parents shoes but I had a little bit more knowledge and a supportive spouse with me going into than this parent. I have seen the struggle that this father is going through. He is playing a game of tug o war with the school district but he doesn’t have the knowledge that he needs to have and he sees ADHD in the wrong light. I didn’t see ADHD clearly until after my son had been diagnosed and medicated for a month. I didn’t want to give my child Drugs and the teachers just want to medicate him so he can sit down and shut up…….Yeah that was then this is now. Now I see the benefits of the medication as: My son can concentrate and hear what the teacher is saying. My son can be more independent. My son isn’t doing any bad behaviors and getting in trouble because he has self control. This is what medication has given him. Yes the teacher benefits too but oh well. Medication is not bad it is good and this is what I was trying to explain to a parent. I told him to educate himself and have something to bring into that meeting so he doesn’t feel like he is being bullied, so he can have the upper hand. It isn’t fun meeting with a bunch of specialists that have a lot of info and experience in this and all you have the knowledge about is your kid. Trust me that is that most important thing to know about! I am glad I did come to give my son meds I am a little sad I had to be pushed into doing it but would I have done it otherwise? No. Was it the best decision for my son? Yes. So I know this parent was feeling a lot like I was. The decision was out of my hands and I grieved that. But in the end I saw the good. So I tried to give this parent some hope and knowledge and I hope things turn out better for him in the end. He will hopefully see the benefits and realize his kids are able to function better with the meds. I know I did.